You're Just Running Survival Patterns That No Longer Serve You?
what if your relationship isn't broken?
You're Just Running Survival Patterns That No Longer Serve You?
An invitation to the first-ever Integration Breakthrough Intensive for high-achieving couples who've mastered every area of life... except their most important relationship.
what if your relationship isn't broken?
You're Just Running Survival Patterns That No Longer Serve You?
An invitation to the first-ever Integration Breakthrough Intensive for high-achieving couples who've mastered every area of life... except their most important relationship.
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If you're reading this page, it's because I personally invited you.
I invited you because you're succeeding -at building businesses, leading teams, creating wealth...
I invited you because you're succeeding -
at building businesses, leading teams, creating wealth...
From: Desk of Dr. Laurie
If you're reading this page, it's because I personally invited you.
And I didn't invite you because you're failing.
I invited you because you're succeeding—at building businesses, leading teams, creating wealth, raising exceptional children.
But somewhere along the way, the partnership that was supposed to fuel all of this became... transactional.
You co-parent with precision. You manage logistics efficiently.
You show up to social events and perform "couple" flawlessly.
But privately?
You're lying next to someone you used to worship and feeling utterly alone.
The passion is gone. The trust is fractured. The intimacy feels like another task on an impossible to-do list.
And you're terrified you've wasted your prime years on the wrong person—or worse, that you've become people your partner no longer recognizes or desires.
I get asked this all the time.
Here's what I want you to know:
You're not broken.
You're not incompatible.
You're operating in Survival State Instead of Creation State.
And every solution you've tried has kept you stuck there.
This page exists to show you a different path.
One designed specifically for elite couples who don't have years to waste on talk therapy that doesn't work.
One that creates permanent transformation in four intensive days—not through more conversation, but through embodied integration.
The details are below.
But first, let me tell you why I created this—and why I believe this will be one of the most transformative experiences of your life.
A Little About Me
(And The Deeper Layer That Almost Cost Me Everything)
My name is Dr. Laurie Emery.
I hold a Doctorate in Psychology.
For about a decade, I worked as a licensed therapist helping couples navigate their relationships.
But I walked away from that world.
Not because I was burned out or disillusioned with helping people.
But because I saw that traditional mental health approaches weren't creating the deep, lasting transformation people desperately needed.
Talk therapy kept people stuck in their heads—understanding their patterns intellectually but never actually changing them.
So I let my license go and dove deep into a completely different world:
Experiential, body-based healing modalities.
I've spent decades training under world-leading practitioners in these approaches.
I've guided hundreds of high-achieving couples through this work.
And I've applied every single one of these modalities to my own life for years.
This isn't theory I teach.
It's the lived experience I embody.
A Little About Me
(And The Deeper Layer That Almost Cost Me Everything)
My name is Dr. Laurie Emery.
I hold a Doctorate in Psychology.
For about a decade, I worked as a licensed therapist helping couples navigate their relationships.
But I walked away from that world.
Not because I was burned out or disillusioned with helping people.
But because I saw that traditional mental health approaches weren't creating the deep, lasting transformation people desperately needed.
Talk therapy kept people stuck in their heads—understanding their patterns intellectually but never actually changing them.
So I let my license go and dove deep into a completely different world:
Experiential, body-based healing modalities.
I've spent decades training under world-leading practitioners in these approaches.
I've guided hundreds of high-achieving couples through this work.
And I've applied every single one of these modalities to my own life for years.
This isn't theory I teach.
It's the lived experience I embody.
The Crisis That Took Me Deeper
Than I'd Ever Gone
Twenty years into my marriage, a crisis hit that brought us to our knees.
I'll keep the details private.
But here's what you need to know:
My husband and I aren't beginners at this work.
We'd both been doing deep healing for years.
We knew how to feel our emotions. We knew how to regulate our nervous systems. We understood our patterns.
Why can't I navigate my own marriage through it?"
But this crisis revealed something I didn't expect:
There were layers beneath the layers I thought I'd already healed.
Protective patterns running so deep I didn't even know they were there.
Parts of myself I'd been unconsciously disconnected from my entire life.
We were both hitting each other's deepest triggers in ways we'd never experienced before.
And I remember lying awake at 3 AM thinking:
"How is this possible? I've helped hundreds of couples navigate exactly this.
Here's the humbling truth:
What I Finally Understood...
You can do years of deep work...
And still have layers you haven't accessed yet.
Not because you were doing it wrong.
But because healing isn't linear.
And sometimes a crisis is actually an invitation—to go deeper than you've ever gone before.
The work my husband and I had done gave us a foundation.
We weren't intellectualizing our way through this.
We weren't stuck in mental loops trying to "figure it out."
But we WERE both operating from protective patterns we didn't fully realize were running the show.
And those patterns—the ones formed in the earliest years of our lives, the ones that live in the body and nervous system, not in conscious thought—were creating the distance we felt
The Moment Everything Shifted...
So I went there.
To depths I hadn't yet accessed.
I met parts of myself I didn't know existed.
The part of me that learned at 7 years old that vulnerability meant annihilation.
The teenage version of me who decided needing someone meant inevitable abandonment.
The young woman who concluded that absolute control equals safety.
These weren't just "issues" I was aware of or "triggers" I could name.
These were actual protective identities - operating beneath my conscious awareness, convinced they were keeping me safe.
And they were running the show in my marriage.
What Happened When I Went That Deep...
Once I accessed those layers and brought them into integration... The shift was immediate.
Not years. Not even months.
Within weeks, my husband and I were relating to each other in completely new ways.
Within a couple of months, we were more connected than we'd been in years.
Not because we learned better communication skills.
But because we'd each done the deep work to meet the parts of ourselves creating the disconnection.
I stopped making him the villain and started taking full responsibility for the protective patterns running beneath my awareness.
And something incredible happened:
When I stopped operating from my deepest protective patterns, he felt safe enough to access his own.
My willingness to go that deep created permission for him to go deep as well.
Not because I demanded it.
Not because I gave him an ultimatum.
But because when one person becomes fully present and undefended...
It creates space for the other person to do the same.
Where We Are Today
My husband and I are more in love now than we've ever been.
We laugh until we cry.
We have sex that's alive and present.
We turn TOWARD each other in conflict instead of away.
We run a business together now—the kind of daily partnership that would have destroyed us just a few years ago.
And our four kids?
They're not absorbing unresolved trauma anymore.
They're witnessing what REAL partnership looks like.
Not perfect. Not without conflict.
But whole. Present. Chosen.
Why I'm Telling You This?
Because the crisis in my marriage taught me something crucial:
You can be years into this work and still have deeper layers to access.
And that's not a failure.
That's the invitation.
And here's something important: many of the transformations I've witnessed started with just ONE person doing this work.
Their partner wasn't ready.
But when one person integrates, it shifts the entire relationship dynamic.
So if you're reading this and your partner isn't on board yet—that's actually common, and it doesn't mean this isn't for you
Whether you come alone or as a couple, the people I work with share something in common:
They're not beginners.
They're high-achieving, self-aware, growth-oriented people who've done a LOT of personal development.
They've read the books. Done the workshops. Maybe even worked with coaches or guides.
But they're still stuck.
Not because they haven't done good work.
But because they haven't gone to the layers that actually create the disconnection they're experiencing.
They're trying to fix the space BETWEEN them...
Without accessing the deepest layers WITHIN them.
And no amount of communication exercises or conscious relating practices can bridge that gap.
The Four Days That Change Everything
That's why I can confidently say: four days is enough.
Not because this is surface-level work.
But because when you go to the right DEPTH, transformation doesn't require years.
It requires four days of intensive, expertly-guided experiential work...
Where you finally access the layers creating the patterns you've been stuck in.
I've watched couples who've done YEARS of personal development have breakthroughs in a single weekend...
Not because they suddenly learned something new.
But because they finally accessed what was underneath everything else.
The couples who transform aren't doing MORE work than the couples who stay stuck.
They're going DEEPER.
Into the body. Into the parts. Into the layers most approaches never touch.
And that's exactly what these four days are designed to deliver.
What Happens Over Four Days
This isn't a retreat where you do trust falls and communication exercises with 30 other couples.
This is an intensive transformational container capped at 20 people maximum—because
this level of work requires depth, safety, and my full presence. Here's how it works:
DAY 1: THE AWAKENING
We start by creating real safety.
Not the performance of safety—but the felt sense of being held in a container designed for deep work.
You'll meet the other couples in the room. High-achievers like you who are done performing and ready for something real.
And you'll begin to see the patterns you've been running.
The protective strategies that worked in childhood but are sabotaging you now.
The disconnection that's been creating the distance you feel.
Most people tell me: "I had no idea how much I've been operating on autopilot."
By the end of Day 1, you won't be able to unsee it.
And that awareness is the beginning of everything.
DAY 2: THE RELEASE
Your body has been keeping score for decades.
Today, it finally gets to speak.
Through guided somatic experiences, you'll move through what your nervous system has been holding.
Not by thinking about it. Not by talking about it.
But by actually FEELING it and letting it move through your body.
The rage you learned to swallow.
The grief you pushed down.
The fear you've been running from.
When these emotions finally have permission to complete, your nervous system can regulate.
You'll understand why nothing else has worked until now.
By the end of Day 2, you'll know the difference between thinking about an emotion and actually feeling it.
And that difference changes everything.
DAY 3: THE INTEGRATION
Now that you've released what was trapped, we bring the disconnected parts home.
You'll meet the younger versions of yourself who learned to survive by disconnecting.
The part that learned to be perfect.
The part that learned to disappear.
The part that learned to fight.
You'll understand what they were protecting you from.
And you'll reconnect with them—integrating them back into your wholeness.
This is also where couples begin doing specific work together.
You'll practice showing up as your integrated self instead of your protective patterns.
And you'll feel the difference immediately.
By the end of Day 3, you'll have access to parts of yourself you haven't felt in decades.
And your partner will meet a version of you they've never encountered before.
DAY 4: THE REUNION
Everything you've released, integrated, and discovered over the past three days comes together here.
You'll engage in experiences that would have been impossible on Day 1.
Not because you didn't want to.
But because you literally weren't capable yet.
Your nervous system wouldn't allow it.
Now it will.
You'll practice showing up as your integrated self.
Whole. Present. Undefended.
And you'll feel what it's like when someone truly SEES you—maybe for the first time in your life.
This is where the method becomes your lived reality.
This is where everything shifts from concept to embodied truth.
This is where the reunion happens.
With yourself. With your partner. With what's possible.
What Becomes Possible
After these four days, here's what shifts:
IN YOUR BODY:
You'll actually FEEL calm instead of just thinking you should be calm.
Your nervous system will know how to regulate instead of constantly running in fight-or-flight.
You'll have tools to discharge emotional energy before it gets stored in your tissues.
You'll be reconnected to sensations and aliveness you haven't felt in years.
IN YOUR YOURSELF:
You'll know who you are underneath the performance and protection.
You'll have access to emotions you've been cut off from for decades.
You'll feel WHOLE instead of disconnected from essential parts of yourself.
You'll move through the world with groundedness instead of anxiety.
IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP:
You'll be able to show up present instead of defended.
You'll communicate from truth instead of strategy.
You'll create intimacy through vulnerability instead of performance.
And here's what you need to understand:
This isn't a "high" that wears off when you get home.
This is identity-level change.
Nervous system rewiring.
Embodied integration.
The kind of transformation that becomes WHO YOU ARE.
But don't just take my word for it.
Here's what happened for Tracey and her partner:
"Our recent deep-dive couple's immersion weekend with Laurie has been truly life-changing... With her patience, deep insight, and intuitive guidance, we've been able to heal old wounds, break free from unhelpful cycles, and create a renewed sense of partnership—one that is more open, supportive, and fulfilling than we ever imagined.
What makes this experience even more remarkable is how the transformation has extended beyond just the two of us. The insights we've gained have strengthened our relationship and provided us with the opportunity to deepen our connections with friends, family, and colleagues.
Thanks to Laurie, we now have the tools to build a healthier, more intentional, and deeply fulfilling future together." — Tracey K.
Your Transformation Doesn't End On Day 4
You'll leave with:
THREE MONTHS OF INTEGRATION SUPPORT
Because the real challenge isn't the breakthrough—it's integrating it into your daily life.
DAILY PRACTICES & RITUALS
Specific somatic exercises, parts work practices, and relationship tools you can use every single day to stay regulated, integrated, and present.
These aren't complicated. They're simple, powerful, and designed for your real life.
PRIVATE ALUMNI COMMUNITY
You'll join a group of couples who've done this work. Who understand the language. Who can support you when you're struggling and celebrate you when you're winning.
Your new identity needs a new room to grow in. This is that room.
And here's what's possible
When you do this work:
"The experience Dr. Laurie created for my wife and me was truly transformational.
As a power couple, we weren't seeking help to fix problems—we invited Dr. Laurie to help us optimize our relationship, and she exceeded our expectations in every way.
She created a safe and empowering space where we could deepen our connection, enhance our communication, and gain a greater understanding of ourselves, each other, and those we interact with.
I highly recommend Dr. Laurie to anyone looking to strengthen their bond with their partner or simply improve their ability to communicate and connect on a deeper level." — Eric K.
Your Investment
This includes:
All four days of immersive experiences and sessions
All materials, workbooks, and resources
Daily lunches, snacks, and beverages
Opening ceremony and closing integration ritual
Three months of bi-weekly integration calls
Access to the private alumni community
Access to the private alumni community
Dates: Jan 15-18 Location: South Florida (exact venue TBA)
Total value: $9,500
Today Just: $6,500
For couples: $6,500 (that′s $3,250 per person)
Why This Investment Makes Sense
I know $6,500 is significant.
So let me be direct about why:
1. The compression of time.
This is work that would take YEARS in traditional therapy. We're compressing it into four days of intensive, expert-guided transformation.
What's it worth to you to get years of your life back?
4. The intimacy of the container.
We're capping this at 20 people because this work requires depth, safety, and my full presence.
I can't hold space for 100 people doing this level of vulnerable work.
20 is the maximum for real transformation.
2. The alternative cost
How much have you already spent trying to fix this?
Therapy at $300/session. Workshops. Retreats. Books. Courses. Add it up.
More importantly—is it working?
5. The long-term value.
This isn't just four days.
It's four days + three months of integration support + a lifetime of tools, practices, and community.
You're not buying a weekend.
You're investing in a completely different way of being in your body, yourself, and your relationship.
3. The cost of NOT doing this.
Another year of feeling disconnected from yourself and your partner?
Another year of your nervous system running in survival mode?
Another year of unconsciously passing your patterns to your kids?
Another year of wondering "is this all there is?"
What's THAT costing you?
What Becomes Possible
Who is this for?
This is NOT for you if:
You're looking for a motivational weekend or surface-level inspiration
You're not willing to look at your own patterns and take responsibility for your part
You're dealing with active addiction or abuse (that needs specialized support first)
You want someone to "fix" your partner instead of doing your own work
You're not ready to be vulnerable in front of other people
You're hoping for a magic technique instead of real transformation
This IS for you if:
You're a high-achiever who's mastered everything else in life but feels stuck in your relationship
You're willing to do deep, uncomfortable work—not just talk about it
You're ready to FEEL things you've been avoiding for years
You're committed to your relationship and want to discover what's truly possible
You're open to somatic work, parts work, and approaches that might feel unfamiliar
You're ready to invest in yourself at this level—whether you come as a couple or on your own
I get asked this all the time.
Here's The Truth...
This retreat will ask more of you than anything you've done before.
It will require you to feel things you've spent a lifetime avoiding.
To meet parts of yourself you've been running from.
To take off armor you've been wearing since childhood.
It's not always comfortable.
But it is always worth it.
I know because I've lived it.
I know because I went from months of destructive patterns to one of the deepest, most passionate partnerships I could have imagined—once I finally did the work that actually creates change.
I know because I've watched hundreds of couples go from the brink of divorce to the kind of intimacy that makes their friends jealous.
I know because this work doesn't just save marriages.
It transforms lives.
"Every Day You Wait Is Another Day Living Disconnected"
To secure your spot, simply click the button below to complete your enrollment.
If you're reading this and feeling that pull—that recognition, that sense of "yes, this is what I need"—then you're probably ready.
You'll receive immediate confirmation and all the details about preparing for your four days.
But here's what I want you to know:
Every day you wait is another day of living disconnected.
Another day of your nervous system running in survival mode.
Another day of feeling misaligned with yourself and your partner.
I'm not saying this to pressure you.
I'm saying this because it's true.
The people who transform their lives aren't the ones who wait for the "perfect time."
They're the ones who recognize the moment and say yes.
I almost lost the most important relationship of my life.
Not because I was broken.
Not because I hadn't done deep work.
But because I hadn't gone deep ENOUGH yet.
And when I finally did—when I went to the layers underneath the layers, when I met the parts I didn't even know were running the show, when I chose reunion over resignation...
Everything changed.
Not just my marriage.
My entire life.
And that's what I want for you.
Not survival.
Integration.
With yourself.
With your partner.
With what's possible when two whole people choose each other.
The question is:
Are you ready?
With love and deep respect for your journey,
Dr. Laurie Emery
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